5 New Baby Must Haves {from a Mama of 5}

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When you’re having your 5th child and you’ve had 3 of your others at once there really isn’t anything that you need for a new baby. You kind of decide at this point that you have way too much baby stuff and need to purge immediately and for your own sanity. I’ve been going through all of the kids clothes, shoes, toys and paraphernalia that we have; deciding what to keep, what to yard sale, and what to sell on ebay. It hasn’t been easy {my bedroom has looked liked this for the past 2 months}.

All of this also helps me to realize that perhaps I’m a bit of an expert on the necessities for baby. Obviously, there are some things that are absolutely not negotiable…like a car seat, especially if you plan on being in a car, or diapers and clothes. The rest is just an extensive list of things that would be nice, but aren’t necessary. To me, these items are the must-have-end-all-be-all of baby necessities.

A Carrier
I don’t care who you are or how much you love your baby, at some point you’re going to want the use of your hands again, but that little one is probably still going to want to be held. With the rest of our kids we had a Moby Wrap, which both Matt and I loved! It kept them close and warm, it was comfortable to wear, even with the clingy big sister in it.

This time it’s summer though and warm isn’t exactly something I’m looking for. I asked a few friends about the Ergo and the Boba and several others, before deciding that we would ask for a Boba with #5. I need ease of use, comfort, and flexibility…especially going into the summer when we have swimming lessons, the fair, and Matt is gone a whole lot more.

*Ergo Baby Carrier {Borrowed one of these from a friend and I really like it}
*Boba Baby Carrier {I liked the features of the Boba better than the Ergo}
*Moby Wrap {Love this one…it is a bit tricky to get into at first, it’s pretty easy after you get the hang of it, but it can get quite warm}

Cloth Diapers

I realize that specifically cloth diapers are not a necessity. But I love my cloth diapers, if I could wax-poetic about them I would. I’ve missed them, since we moved out last year and the triplets went in to disposables. My whole box of them has been pulled out, lovingly prepped and waiting for use once again. My favorite is still a Bum Genius. {If you’re not into cloth, we’ve always had great luck with Huggies Little Movers and OverNites}.

*Bum Genius {These are my favorites and I have no complaints whatsoever about them}
*Fuzzi Bunz {I love the colors on these so much more than the BG, but the elastic does not hold up well..they do have an awesome repair policy though}.


Swing

Once little one will let you put them down and sleep comfortably some place other than on your person we loved having a swing. I didn’t have to go up and down the stairs to the baby’s room and they slept well. I think we got our’s at a consignment shop for quite a bit less than brand new. Some of them get ridiculously expensive, but a good, basic one doesn’t have to cost tons of money, just make sure to get one that has an AC adapter…batteries get expensive.

*Fisher Price Rainforest {This is the one we have, I think I paid less than $100 at consignment}
*Fisher Price Zen Swing {We’ve borrowed this one with Ave, it’s nice, but way too expensive}

Sound Machine
I know for some people this is an unnecessary item, but for us…they are awesome! I never used to sleep with a sound machine, until I visited Matt at college with his mom {who had one}. Now I don’t leave home without it and each of the kids’ rooms has one. They’re great for creating a gentle sound that can drown out the rest of a crazy house.

*Cloud B Sound Machine Sheep {I don’t like that this one turns off after a while, baby usually wakes up when that happens}
*Graco Sound Machine {This is my preferred sound machine}

Coconut Oil

That’s right coconut oil. It’s great for diaper rash, sore nipples, dry skin, a quick spoonful for energy…you name it and coconut oil is probably good for it. With Ave I just used the lanolin ointment which reminded me of the smell of wool sweaters in Ireland {lanolin is the oil in sheep wool}, with the triplets we had coconut oil for everything.

*Extra Virgin Coconut Oil

Thoughts Before Birth

We’re quickly winding down this pregnancy…tomorrow is 38 weeks! Eeek! I went from stressing about the pregnancy to now stressing about labor and delivery, or more specifically Matthew. He’s on the road 3-4 days a week, sometimes as much as 2-3 hours from home, so I now worry about his making it home in time.

We have done this twice before, and God was good BOTH times, and I went into labor in the evening or middle of the night. For some reason though, I can’t seem to get it through my thick skull that God’s got this…just like He did then. This past Tuesday night I spent most of the night talking myself up and down, worrying {the heat didn’t help}. Why is it so hard at night to remember the Truths we know during the daylight hours?!

I feel so much more vulnerable when I’m alone with my thoughts in the dark. Some people just get up, some people read, I just lay there…waiting for sleep to come {it usually doesn’t} and think. I’d love to say I end up in constant prayer, but my brain barely acknowledges that Gods awake too, then.

Other than Matt’s possible location when I go into labor, there are of course all of the normal anxieties and concerns about labor in general. Yea, I’ve done this before, but that doesn’t mean I know what to expect. Ave was my last “normal” pregnancy and that was 5.5 years ago! I’m sure it’s kind of like riding a bike, but until we’re there…I won’t know that. Am I looking forward to it? Yes, because I want to do this again, Ave’s birth was awesome and so empowering, but I still have all the questions of whether or not I’ll know if I’m in labor or not.

If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll see that I’ve mentioned briefly that we’re having a home birth this time. While I don’t have to worry about getting to a hospital, one of the reasons we’re doing homebirth is because I have a tendency to go quick, this will be an entirely different experience for me and Matt.

Of course there are all the “After” questions: What will it be like as a family with 5 kids? How will life with a newborn be? How will the other 4 handle the newest additional? Will I ever even get the meager sleep that I get now? If we need formula, what will we use?

How I will I manage with 5 kids when I know this is the busiest time of year and Matt’s not around a lot? What things do we still need to get, and do we really need them?

Lots of question are constantly on my mind, and of course there isn’t a readily available answer for any of them.

Show YOURSELF Some Grace

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W.I.P. Wednesday

For the past couple of months I’ve been working on a baby quilt for a friend, but I didn’t dare share it on here…unless she stopped by for a visit. I bought the fabric in February, but it wasn’t until the middle of April that I actually worked up the gumption to start! I went with Folklore by Heather Rosas for Camelot. OH, the reds, the turquoise, the coral! And a decidedly VERY Germanic pattern….perfection!

The next part is never my favorite part…deciding on a pattern. I don’t understand why this is always so hard for me, but it’s definitely my least favorite part. Of course, it doesn’t help when I decide on a pattern that I then have to alter and change it to make it do what I want it to do. For this project, I ended up going with ThimbleBlossoms {Camille Roskelley} Fireworks…it had nice big blocks, that were intricate enough without being over the top, but I had to refigure the cut list for what I was specifically doing.

Then I begun….deciding on what colors would be in what blocks and where…

Which pieces would be fussy cut to make the centers of each block…Cutting all of the pieces out….And finally starting to stitch them together….

I pushed…hard.

This quilt needed to be done before I left on vacation…

Or at least all of the machine work did…

And let me just say, sitting on the floor with a then 34 week bump to pin a quilt is not the funnest thing in the world…

But it was done…ready to stitch down binding and hand tie. I tried this new tutorial on how to cut bias binding..it worked, but I felt rather befuddled by the whole thing…no idea why.

Labeled {which I NEVER remember to take a picture of}, photographed and ready to ship…

It arrived at it’s intended this past Monday. I still love the fabrics…I may just have to buy more so that I can make the girls some fun skirts from it, because it’s just that awesome!

I still have another baby quilt that HAS to get done in the next month, but I have no ideas about it and haven’t even started. At some point I suppose I do need to get the quilts made for my own children…not sure how that will go with 5 kids.

**Linking up with Lee at FreshlyPieced.com

Topsail Island NC

I went for the first time in 1993, and have been back more than a half-dozen times {I honestly can’t remember how many times} over the past 22 years. I’ve never gone again and again to a vacation spot, but this place I have. There’s something so wonderful about the familiarity of a place. It’s always been my favorite beach spot..quiet, beautiful, and relaxing {other than that 14 hour drive to get there and home}.

The last time we were there I was 17 weeks pregnant with Ave, this time 35 weeks with #5. Of course, being 35 weeks I was rather limited in how much ocean-time I could enjoy {being beaten around by waves, just doesn’t have the same appeal} and with 4 kids the relaxation was a bit limited to, but it was fun!

The kids were entirely different about the ocean from last year. Henry absolutely LOVED the beach {he barely tolerated the sand last year}, James, was ehh about it, Ellie could’ve cared less and claimed she was scared of the ocean, Ave was in her glory! We were a bit concerned that Ana was going to put a damper on our fun, but other than Sunday, the rest of the week was decent.

Saturday we drove the 650+ miles, stopping for breakfast along the way.

Sunday we celebrated all of the April and May Birthdays….My dad had just turned 60, my mom had turned 55, and my brother turned 30!

With the storm passing through I ended up going to the store and buying some legos for the kids, so they had something to do inside.

The sleeping arrangements worked out ok. We had a pyramid bunk, so we alternated who was on the top and the other 3 were sideways in the double below.
One morning. The sunrises weren’t great, because of the weather, but they were still beautiful!My mom and my nephew.

My brother and his big catch.Matt and I got to go on one walk sans kids…

We had to have our traditional southern fish fry at least one night. My aunt came over {she lives nearby} and fried up a wonderful meal!

My aunt managed to get a halfway decent picture of this motley crew…the kids barely tolerate pictures anymore.

The one morning we headed over to a nearby park..they loved it! All 4 of them managed to climb the rock wall…I was impressed.

We thoroughly enjoyed our last few days and made every effort to spend as much time on the beach.The kids were up bright and early on Saturday ready to go home. Two of them were asking to go home to their own beds by Wednesday {they take after their mama}.

All in all it was a great trip! We’re hoping to make a beach trip a family vacation, at least every few years.

If you want to see ALL of the pictures from our trip, check them out here.